Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur

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“loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.”

“if you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” 

“do not look for healing at the feet of those who broke you”

Rupi Kaur

What I liked

It lies beyond my capability with words to say how Milk and Honey touched me.

I never knew poetry could be so accessible, so open and caring. I felt close to Rupi Kaur. I felt like I understood on a deep level what she was saying and why she felt the need to say it.  

As a person who likes to write (I always hesitate at calling myself a writer) much of what Kaur said about writing resonated with me. When she wrote “the thing about writing is/ i can’t tell if it’s healing/ or destroying me” I knew this book was going to mean something to me as a human and as a writer. Even the dedication spoke to me personally:

“my heart woke me crying last night

 how can i help I begged

 my heart said

 write the book”

This is such a haunting line for anyone who loves writing and who uses it as a sort of therapy.

I especially liked that Kaur is the old-fashioned definition of a feminist: she does not put down men to uplift women. She also doesn’t put down women to make herself feel better. One of her poems speaks to the issue of men trying to compliment a woman with the “you’re not like other girls/ you’re not like most girls” line.

“you tell me

i am not like most girls

and learn to kiss me with your eyes closed

something about the phrase- something about

how i have to be unlike the women

i call sisters in order to be wanted

makes me want to spit your tongue out”

This collection was so honest and life-affirming. You can feel the ways Kaur has grown through this poetry and you either grow with her or remember when you first bloomed in that way.

This is a book I read as an ebook and felt I NEEDED as a physical book. I feel more strongly about this collection than her second, The Sun and Her Flowers, which I loved so much I read through then immediately flipped back to the first page and reread.

What I did not like

Nothing except perhaps that it ended.

Who I would recommend it to

  • Poetry lovers
  • Readers of all types. You don’t have to be adept at reading poetry to connect with this collection.
  • Men and women who need to love themselves.


Rupi Kaur is an Indian-born Canadian poet (among other things) and has published two collections of poetry: Milk and Honey and The Sun and Her Flowers.

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